Struggling to conceive?
With all the pressures, hopes and expectations of women today, you may have spent years actively making sure you do not conceive. Many women are zooming through their prime child-bearing years with thoughts of career, travel, romance, money, mortgages
their only thoughts on conception are remembering to take the pill and hoping to keep their periods regular so that they can plan their social life more effectively.
Then at some point her body clock begins ticking louder and louder until strong new feelings seep through every pore, a new longing, a new desire to hold her own baby. Gone is the desire for a full throttle lifestyle and in its place is such an inner longing, a desperate yearning to fulfil her true role, to become a mother.
And yet for many women, that decision to become pregnant does not always translate into reality. Consciously she decides that now would be a good time to become pregnant but for many reasons her body does not seem to get the message and month after month go by without the outcome she craves. She may then spend hours searching the internet on how to get pregnant and it will throw up all kinds of physical factors such as having regular sex (duh!), eat a healthy diet, reduce weight, take vitamins, monitor ovulation, reduce caffeine
However, what most articles and websites seem to miss, is that your body does not work in a purely physical way. Yes all those things are important BUT they are missing a cruicial factor your thoughts, fears and emotions are all inextricably linked with your physical functions. In fact our emotions, memories and thoughts are all stored within our body and are interconnected with every physical function. Take a moment to think of something that made you sad, an event in the past
. then notice where you are feeling it right now. The chances are it is somewhere in your body and NOT in your mind.
Even though you may consciously feel now is a good time to get pregnant, there may also be a whole host of subconscious reasons which are holding you back. There may be issues and fears which you have not really faced up to or even ones that you may not be aware of.
- Issues and concerns related to your own childhood, your parents, your perception of their love
- Your feelings about your own ability as a mother
- Concerns over how becoming a mother will change you, your lifestyle, your relationships, your sense of self, your place in the world.
- Feelings about your body, your sexuality,
- Your ability to cope with pregnancy and childbirth
- Material issues such as coping financially, the size of your house, car, mortgage.
- All of these can act as blocks to giving your body permission to conceive.
So something which may appear as physical, such as conceiving a child, is actually heavily influenced by a womans thoughts, emotions and fears. I am sure you have heard of examples where a couple have tried to conceive for many years and then finally give up and decide to adopt, or to go on holiday and then hey presto they get pregnant. What was different? Did her body suddenly change, did his sperm suddenly get more powerful? Usually it is when the mental thoughts and fears are put aside and she is no longer holding herself back or trying to get pregnant.